Friday, November 12, 2010

Ms. Bestower-of-Confidence

Have you ever been around someone who makes you feel like a million bucks? It doesn't seem to matter the time or the place or the occasion, there's just something about them . . . and it's not just you. Everyone else feels the same way about them, too.

I so wish this was me. But alas, not to worry, I think most things in this world can be learned. So here are my 5 easy rules for being Mr./Ms. Bestower-of-Confidence (based on observation, of course):
  1. Smile. But not just with your mouth, and even beyond your eyes. Find your happy place and keep it at the front of your thoughts.
  2. Give compliments. The catch is they have to be sincere. None of that "I love your hair" crap, when you're really thinking "What were they thinking?"
  3. Don't give too many compliments. Then you just sound fake.
  4. Ask questions. About them. There's a catch to this one, too. You have to listen to the answer. Not just with your ears, but with your whole body. Then ask follow-up questions. And yup, you guessed it, just keep listening.
  5. Enjoy life. Have fun. And I don't mean the go-out-and-get-drunk variety. Look at kids, they recklessly dance to the music at the end of a movie without fear of looking silly. They get excited because they see two school buses in the same place. They laugh at the sheer pleasure of running as fast as they can. They don't worry about getting chocolate on their noses, they just enjoy.
 People who do this have a contagious happiness. These are the people I like to be around. So what rules did I miss?


Renae said...

Great advice Janet! Being around comfotably happy people just makes you feel good. And you are so right about not being fake. That's just irritating.

Christopher said...

Sounds like a lot of work, i think I'll stick to being Mr. Destroyer-of-Confidence. Or maybe not, makes me sound like I should be fighting Godzilla or something.

Angela said...

I don't know that you missed any rules. Some people have a natural social intelligence about them. It's hard not to like people like that. My father-in-law is one of them, every time he rolls into town I love spending time with him.

Great picture, by the way, totally cute.

Talli Roland said...

Excellent tips - I think you've got it all here! Now if only I could do all that...

Jessie Oliveros said...

Great advice. I love that picture. His eyes are even closed like it is SOOOOOO good. Yes there is another one....when you eat chocolate, close your eyes and SAVOR.

R. Garrett Wilson said...

Great Advice... the type I should take. However, like Christopher said, sounds like a lot of work. I'll start with two of the rules: have a smile that touches my eyes, which I will have to work on; and not giving too many compliments, which comes naturally.

Emy Shin said...

These are such excellent advice! It can be a lot of work, but it's such a wonderful things, making others feel better. :)

Lenny Lee said...

hi miss janet! im thinking first you gotta like your own self and be happy cause its hard to get smiling if youre not for real happy. you could need to know how to be happy with just the most small thing just like that ice cream cone. its pretty easy to be a spreader of sunshine if you like you.
...smiles and hugs from lenny

Victoria Dixon said...

Yeah, this is great advice and something you can also use when developing characters. Hmmmm. LOL
Wish I was the sort of person who does this sort of thing naturally!

Cheryl Kohan said...

Really great advice, Janet! And that adorable little boy looks a LOT like my cute little grandson...especially with the chocolate covered face. :-)

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